Your wedding is the most important party you will ever plan and the music is one of the key decisions you need to make. You should seriously think about the type of wedding you and your partner want before making a decision. It is not something to rush. Take your time and answer a few questions before deciding on any music.
Is budget a constraint on the music you can select? Every couple has a budget. You should sit down and decide what you are willing to spend on music for the evening. Once you have that figure it is good to have a discussion about priorities. Is it more important to get the band you want or stick to the budget? This decision will vary for each couple but you should make sure you are both on the same page.
Do you want a live band or a DJ? Is it important to have live music at your wedding or do you prefer beats? There is no right or wrong. As a couple this is about personal taste and the style of your wedding. A DJ can sometimes be a safer bet as most DJs will have a good mix of songs that everyone knows. A band gives a more personal atmosphere.
Is the theme going to shape your music choice? Think about the theme of your wedding party. Are you going to have a theme? The music will need to reflect this. Have a string quartet at a backyard BBQ wedding would seem an impossible fit. Do you want people to dance? You need to find music which suits your theme and encourages people to the dance floor.
Do you or your partner have religious or cultural requirements? If you are having a cultural traditional ceremony and reception then you will probably want the music to reflect these decisions. The music should complement the party not stand out like an awkward thumb. The band or DJ should play music which matches this. You may need time to source bands which reflect some cultures or backgrounds.
Is your couple taste or guest enjoyable more important? The music you choose should reflect your personal taste and set the atmosphere. You need to decide is it most important to you to reflect your tastes as a couple or for all your guests to enjoy the party. If you have your hearts set on a death metal band at your wedding, go ahead, but try to understand many of your guests may not enjoy the evening. You should try to select music that both you and your guests can appreciate.
Does your venue restrict your choice? Some venues may not be equipped with a sound system or space to accommodate every band. If you have already picked a venue then you need to make sure your music choice will be appropriate. Ask about noise restrictions, it is better to be safe than sorry.